Pumpkin & Pomegranate

A while ago, while on Facebook, I noticed that someone I had been friendly with at one time had blocked me from seeing them (and thus blocked himself from seeing me as well).  I honestly hadn’t taken much notice, as I had removed him from my friends list (long story and unimportant right now). I only noticed because mutual friends kept saying his name in response to things he was saying on Facebook, and I couldn’t see his posts. No biggie, but it did seem a tad dramatic to me. Well recently I was told by someone else that the he has told people his blocking of me had to do with him getting tired of me posting things about food on Facebook. Now, this is completely ridiculous because he only blocked me AFTER I unfriended him, so he wouldn’t be able to see my postings anyway. Plus I cut way back on my food posting about a year ago. This IS going somewhere, I promise you. Now, I could psychoanalyze this all I want on the basis that he did indeed block me because of the food, but that isn’t it. It is the scapegoat for a bigger issue clearly.

However, there are times when people *do* get annoyed when others post about food, talk about food, etc. In fact I believe it has been written up as one of those “annoying” facebook trends. Welp. My comment to that is if you like the person but don’t want to see their food posts, you might want to start looking inside yourself to see why exactly their food is such an issue to you. Is it because you feel they are pressuring you into eating a different way? Do you feel guilty because you don’t eat healthily? Are you judging their food as unhealthy? Or do you just not want to look at photos or postings about food? Do you actually like the person in question? Do you get just as upset by other photos that are fairly trendy like kids and pets? What is the core issue, because It isn’t the posting about food. It is the emotional response you seem to have to it.

If you feel that someone else’s food is harassing you then you really need to do an internal check to see what your issues are. Otherwise just LET IT GO.

And I fully admit to hiding people because of things they post, but it isn’t about them, it is about me. And I don’t block people because of it either. I have hidden people who post multiple times on a daily basis about how incredible their S.O. is. As much as I’d like to say it is because it just gets tedious, and “The Lady doth protest to much”….it probably has more to do with me being single. I’m pretty self aware. However, I haven’t ever unfriended someone or blocked them for it. I just hide them.

I like to gauge things by the amount of feedback I get on something. I have had more people comment on my random food posts in a positive manner than I ever have negative. But you know, it’s ok. I get it. When you are unhappy with yourself you feel the need to trash others. That’s pretty textbook.  I’m not immune from this, I have my bad days, but I am working on having less of those because it is a very unattractive quality and it really shows off insecurity.

Moving right along, we get to something else I have encountered. People who will try to get you to eat the food they are eating just so they won’t feel guilty for eating it themselves. This is all too common. A dear friend of mine has lost 45 lbs recently, and asked me about a similar issue, when someone asks you what you are doing that is working, then you respond, and then they tell you what they are eating and want you to sign off on it. They start to defend their choices to you, and for some reason need you to agree that their diet is “ok”. Look, if it works for you that is wonderful. But don’t expect me to jump on board. I know what works for me. Also, if it isn’t working, and you are still defending it…that is just an excuse. Get rid of the excuses. Be happy the way you are, or make a decision to change things. That’s how it works.

I get a lot of grief for the way I eat.  My choices are not made to make others feel bad about their choices. It has nothing to do with anyone but me. I now what works for my body, and I know what makes me feel good. You are perfectly free to make your own food choices, and i won’t comment on it unless you ask me for my advice. But if you DO ask me, I will tell you my opinion, for what it’s worth.

Ok, so that is my soap box for the day! And here is part of my lunch. This has been common in my house of late as I have been incredibly busy!

Kale, Squash, Zucchini, onion, and garlic with a little Olive Oil

I topped it with 3 pastured eggs from the ladies in Woodinville. Absolutely delicious.

Hope you are having a great Summer!